Friendship is by definition a mutual arrangement, a two-way street. Dr. Martin Luther King spoke of us all being bound up in an “inescapable web of mutuality.” They called Jesus a “friend of sinners,” which, for my money, implies more than that he was nice to bad people. He valued their friendship as much as they …
Sinners Befriending Sinners
Rahabs are untouchables who have been pushed out to the margins of society and been refused citizenship in the center with the rest and the “best” of us. Remember, it’s a “friendship” quest into which God has invited us. Neil Cole said, “The Gospel flies best on the wings of relationships.” Friendship is by definition …
Vulnerability and Mutual Trust
My general rule of thumb is to convey the radical cost of accepting or rejecting the gospel at a level commensurate with the trust I’ve built with someone. Otherwise it feels like I’m shouting at them from across the chasm to come over to our side. Once they trust me they’ll be more apt to …
Nobody Likes A Condescending Spiritual Expert
“Befriending someone merely so you can tell them the gospel is a form of manipulation and a violation of trust,” says Christopher Heuertz. “Some of our approaches to conversion have earned the mistrust of the very people we want to reach.” Treat people as people, not like evangelistic targets. Nobody likes to be targeted. We’re …
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The Trustworthy Bridge
You’ve probably seen this diagram before. It’s a great graphic, actually. But since mistrust for Christians and our churches has become its own chasm, a pre-chasm if you will, something often has to be done about bridging that before a person is even willing to hear about the sin chasm and trust the cross to …
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